Obviously many of us have fears about going out dressed up for the first time. Fears of people seeing us for the first time, fears of people making fun of us, fears of people recognizing us.
When we do start to go out every step is a challenge. Our fears include going out in public for the first time, going out during day light for the first time, leaving your own house, going someplace that isn’t labeled as “cross dresser friendly”, and the list goes on and on.
Even many of the things that we do on a frequent basis in our daily lives - stopping for gas, going to the grocery store, etc. - become major obstacles while we are in our feminine personality.
Jenna has went out in public a lot over the course of the past 2 - 3 years, but I still run into new experiences all of the time that make me “worry” about how it will go. Last weekend I went downtown Charlotte for the first time. I went with a group of friends to a crowded bar on a Friday night. I was worried about how many people there would be, worried about being downtown in general, and worried about being someplace where there were large groups of males drinking. I had a wonderful evening and overall it was a great experience.
Maybe our fears will never totally go away (after all, we are a minority, one that most people have no experience with), but we can break down our fears and take baby steps to overcome them!
Many of us get into our cars at some point, usually at night, and “just drive”. We feel like we are out in public. We can use this activity as a foundation. If your currently one of “us” that wants to make the jump into going out, but have many of these fears, I’d like to offer some baby steps that I took to help you overcome your fears.
The next time that you go for one of your “nightly drives” make a point of stopping at a gas station. It is the smallest step that I can think of and it was a great first step for me. If you go late at night there most likely won’t be to many people there and you don’t have to have any interaction with others, since you can pay with your credit card at the pump, but you do have to force yourself to get out of the car for that 3-5 minutes.
Once you feel comfortable with the gas station you can move onto other places late at night. After the gas station I progressed to the drug store (shopping for makeup) and the grocery store (just watch out for floors .. they are super slippery in the heels!). You don’t have to stay at these places very long, but they do make you at least interact with people to some degree.
About a month ago I was sharing these baby steps with one of my online friends. She works out of town during the week and spends many of her nights dressed up in her hotel room. A few days later I got an email from her asking me to check out her new pictures on her Myspace page. She had decided to take a very big babystep - she had taken pictures of her pumping gas!
We can all overcome out fears. We just need to take them one baby step at a time! Have fun … and be safe!
Jenna
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